Dear Mate,
Actually I am a boyish girl. Unfortunately for me, my parents
asked me, even they insisted me to change my performance. So guys, according to
you, how if being a feminine girl is my parents’ passion, not mine. Should I
obey it? What’s on your mind about this, Mate? Thank before for your problem
solving, Mate.
Finding a passion is some difficults thing to do. Many people get a very long time just to get their passion, eventhough passion is something we got to find.
ReplyDeleteParents are wanting good for their children eventhough sometime it’s rather coercive. Because they love their children sometime they want to make their only one daughter become more feminine, so sometime they don’t realize that you don’t like it.
Parents never want bad for their children, they want you become mature as a feminine girl, maybe sometime it’s gonna be very useful for your life. As long as you don’t feel wrong doing it, I think it’s okay. Think about it, every woman usually become feminine as long as they grown up. Every woman will have their own characteristic, eventhough it’s as feminine or boyish girl, everyone is still different with their style.
My suggestion is that you talk to your parents about what you want, become more feminine or not, or you can tell them that you will change slow down so they don’t have to force you. Just tell them that you don’t like how they force you, because as long as go by you will find your own passion about being feminine.
Every person always want to have feminine daughter or masculine son, not boyish girl or girlish boy, Mate.
ReplyDeleteWe possible hear this parent’s statement “Change your performance, I don’t want my daughter become a boyish girl. You must become feminism” or maybe they make a regulation with some threat even hit yourself if you are not obedient with their theat.
If your parent want you be a feminine but you not want it, you should not obey it, be yourself with say “this is my passion mom, I enjoy this.”
You do not have to stick with it because of the desire to change from yourself, who would willingly transform themselves.
Yes, Mate. if it's really hard is not really the intention to change the nature of the self.
ReplyDeleteI think you better do what your parents said parents why you would want the best for you so even if you do not like, try to sincerely for the sake of your parents. Your mom is true. You have to act as yourself, but you know you are girl. You are feminime. My mother want you to act like usual girl. In all religion, we have to act like our gender.
I advice you need to change your nature, although it's heavy and tortured for the sake of your parents just assume that reciprocation to your parents. You should obey even if it is not from yourself. Maybe by the passage of time will be used to being feminine, Mate. Who knows? Or maybe you can join the personality class to find your passion and in which style you are.
Yes Mate, we are still involved parents, but if being yourself will be more comfortable and not feel constrained.
ReplyDeleteOf course, Mate. For the girls, looks perfect in front of the boys its really important. not only in front of your special boys, but in front of everyone. to look attractive the confidence to be increased.
To look attractive in front of everyone, everyone will be happy to see you look. looks good does not have to be expensive. to look neat and clean is an attraction.
So you do not have to spend a lot of money to look good in front of men. just be yourself, believe in your ability, believe that what God created you a gift. watch and care so that you still look attractive.