Dear mate,
I am a mother who loves my daughter so much. She is nearing
puberty now. Unfortunately, we rarely talk or even being together because
I'm very busy doing my job in a big company. I need to talk to her about the
details. I can’t handle it. Mate, do you have any solution for this condition?
Every human will be puberty. Puberty time is hard for a boy or a girl. Why? Because they always try something they don’t know. It’s difficult for their parent when they get some problem.
ReplyDeleteIf your daughter in puberty time, it’s danger for her. Why? Because every boy or girls like to try something what they don’t know. If she can’t carefully she will lost control and going crazy, fighting their parent.
I think you must talk about that to your daughter. Give her some reason why you talk about it. If you can’t handle it you must ask to your husband or someone to help you. And if you take nothing your daughter will going wild.
Puberty is very important for your daughter. You should accompany her to face that problem in puber time. Puberty is time for your daughter to be mature. If you let her alone, it will be dangerous, because she need your direction. She is labil, and you have to teach how to solve every problem in your daughter’s life.
Keeping both carrier and family for woman make woman have a double big job in their life. Not only good at work but take care their family as well.
ReplyDeleteAs a mother, sometime have a big carrier in our life is force us to rarely talk to our daughter, son, even the husband. Something like this is really not good for the family relationship, because rarely communication can make the household get misunderstanding, whereas the first thing we have to keep in a relationship is communication and trust.
Rarely talk to our daughter can make us don’t know anything about their life, their friends or maybe their love life. It’s so bad. If it has crossed the line, we will never able to control our daughter’s development into a beautiful woman, sadly we will become a meanless mother.
I think as a mother who wants to keep both your carrier and family, you have to be able to set up your schedule not to very busy. I mean, you can keep doing your job but you are still have a responsibility to your daughter, so you still have to fulfill your daughter’s loves need. Even it’s just a little time, make your time being with your daughter. It’s okay if it’s just a small talk and chatting, it will slowly improve your relationship.
Every child needs her mother figure in her puberty age. They often ask some advices to their friends. But I think it's a mistake because her friends are in the exact same puberty moment.
ReplyDeleteThat's why they need to talk to their mothers, or someone older, or like reading books. I think you can ask her to dinner, and have a little chit chat about her daily life. You don't have to ask her in a serious way. Do it heart to heart, smile, tell her your puberty moment when you were her age.
The most important thing is don't judge your daughter because a child in puberty age is usually being rebellion.
Well mate, I know that what you are facing is a difficult problem. You have a daughter and you are busy in your job. If I were you, I confuse at the first but I have to face this problem. Our children are our responsibility, and our consequence be a parent.
ReplyDeleteJob is important too, but we want or not we must care our daughter. Like what I said “our children are our responsibility”.
You have to provide a day for her, may be your holiday or you need to take day off in a month, only for caring, talking, chatting with her. However, we shut know the improvement of our children.
The growth of human are child at first, teenagers as second level and the third is old. Since young, human had inform by them teacher that after the child level they will enter teenagers level. In teenager level they will have a process named puberty.
ReplyDeletePuberty in teenager level is an important level. In school there are lesson about puberty in biology and sociology. But, education about puberty from the closest person like you more important because you more know about everything that she need. You can tell her about puberty characteristic first. After that, tell her about how to enjoy it, how to save it, and how to make this level become good level not bad level. The fact is you have no time for discuss it to your daughter.
My recommendation is although you was in far place you can discuss it via telephone. Beside you can also tell her via your partner may be your neighbor or you parent because they are your daughter’s close person in her house.